Top 10 Things That You Should Say to a Single Mom!
I have heard my fair share of cringe worthy things from people who were actually trying to tell me ‘nice’ things. It is amusing to learn that some people don’t really realize what it is they are doing when they say such dialogues!
If you look online you will see many lists that tell you what not to tell a single mom, so I thought of putting together my own list of the top 10 things you should say to a single mom!
In case you are in doubt what you could say that doesn’t sound like you are ‘trying’ too hard, then it may be a good idea to consider this list.
Without any further ado, here is my list of Top 10 Things You Should Say to a Single Mom!
- Your child will be so proud of you!
This one is the best one you can ever say, pure gold! It is difficult to go wrong with this one. Every single mom goes to bed doubting if she is doing enough for her child and wakes up thinking what more she can do. A little reminder in the form of that sentence will go a long way in reassuring her!
- You look great!
This sentence may look simple, but there are many ways to go wrong with this one. Look, at that sentence again, there is no ‘Wow’ before the ‘You’ neither is there a ‘today’ after the ‘great’, meaning you look great as always, not just today or on any particular day!
- You are enough!
I spend a lot of time brooding over the fact that all the little things that my son and I did together were incomplete memories for him because he has only one parent. That was until I recognized that in all those memories I could see the happy face of my little one. That means we are enough for each other. That is also why that little sentence will go a long way to make a single mom feel better.
- Family is Family!
Whether a family of both parents and children, or a single parent and a child, family is family, no matter who plays the lead or the major role. It’s as simple and as easy as that!
- It’s OK to use a babysitter at times!
I rarely make plans that does not involve my son and at those rare moments too, I feel terribly guilty for being away from my son. So a little reassurance that it is fine to use a sitter once in a while really helps me relax!
- It’s OK if you want to take time to date again!
I have had quite the number of people telling me to jump back into the dating scene and many have asked me why I am wasting ‘time’! Well first off, this is no competition and secondly each person heals at a different pace. So the best thing you can say on the topic of getting back there, is “it’s OK if you need more time!”
- It’s fine to want to take a break!
I love my son to bits and can’t imagine a moment without him, but then there are times that come once in a blue moon, when I just want to be by myself, alone doing something that I love. Of course like most moms, I feel guilty of wanting to do that, so that reassurance that it is fine to want to be alone at times, will really help!
- I don’t know how it is, but I can imagine!
Too many people use the words ‘I understand’ without thinking about the impact of those words. Instead, why not tell the truth and say that you don’t know how it is, but you can imagine how it could be!
- You have the whole world out there!
Most times, single moms get so caught up in their ‘domesticated’ life that they end up thinking that there is nothing else they can do. A little reminder in the form of the sentence above would be a good idea to remind her that the world is our canvas and we can paint on it however we want!
- You are doing awesome!
Last but definitely not the least, every single parent would love to hear this, that they are doing an awesome job parenting their kids! If you feel they deserve this compliment, they why not tell them that?
I hope you enjoyed reading this list. Is there something you did like to add? Let me know in the comments.
Lynz Real Cooking
Thank you Lynz! 🙂
Lynz Real Cooking
It’s a tough job for sure! nice list
It sure is!
I bet the kids are glad you’re their mom.
Thank you! kid…I have a son! 🙂
That is a great list!! I would like to add one thing “If you ever need any help, or a person to talk to…” I am stubborn, so it is difficult for me to ask, but I always appreciate the offer. ☺ Cheers to you for being a great mom!!
That’s a good addition to the list! I’m too proud myself to ask for help but appreciate it when someone says they’d like to help!
Thank you! 🙂
Dr Meg Sorick
Number 11: You’re so cool! xoxo. (You really are!)
You’re so sweet, Meg! xoxo
Ella Mathews (ex-Crazy Stork Lady)
Not really one for the list but my mum was a single mum after my dad left & I always think it’s better to have one amazing parent than two mediocre parents or even one amazing and one rubbish x
That’s very true! It’s always better to have one amazing parent than 2 mediocre ones!!
You are awesome dear!!
I have said couple of those things and not because I thought you were a single mom 😛
I love that picture–that is funny yet true and they got inspiration from goddess Durga lol 😀
Your son is already proud of you and you look so cute and you are healing very fast. I want you to do breathing practice 😛 I wish you very best. Please take your time 🙂
Love and light <3
Thank you, Anand! Yes, you sure have said some of these things to me…you are awesome! 😀
That picture is amazing, I found it to perfectly match what I was saying!
I am surely going to try and do the breathing practice this weekend. Expect an email from me on how it goes! 🙂
You are doing AWESOME as a mom, as a writer, as a daughter and friend! You exude love, kindness and confidence. Single parent or not those words you listed are applicable for moms like us. Yay! Great post my friend, really sorry for not catching up with your post, I missed it and I missed you! By the way, you are looking great and a very beautiful soul. All my love and hugs to you! 🙂
Thank you so much Shine! I missed you too! How are the courses coming along? I hope you are taking some time to breathe! 🙂
Lots of love and hugs to you my friend 🙂
The courses are very good but I am always trying to catch up with lectures, videos and assignments. I feel like I am in a marathon lol 😀 But it is great and it will be ending first week of December. 🙂
Life always feels like one long marathon, doesn’t it? Remember to take a break 🙂
Haha yes, but I am enjoying the courses. I hope you will be able to join on those courses too next year, it might be too late for you to join now as you are into NanoWrimo, it maybe of interest to you since it tackles creating impact and empowerment for social change. I will send you info via email. How was your NanoWrimo going? I usually take a break every now and then, part of my break is reading posts and of course connecting with my blogging friends. 🙂
Yes, maybe for next year I could do the courses. As of now, NaNoWriMo is keeping me real busy. I just finished writing for today, now going to hit the sack!
My breaks are also reading the posts by our blogging friends and also interacting on the forum! 🙂
Have a good night rest and I will surely share about it to you 🙂
Thank you Shine! I look forward to your email! You have a good day!
a great list to give the positive things to say instead of the negatives. Thanks for sharing!!!
Your welcome! I’m glad you enjoyed reading this list 🙂
Maria Jansson Photography
I like the positive idea of what to say, rather than all the what not to say lists!